"Four husbands :Could Eve have been a Black woman? Mr. Akpabio and Other Misogynies.

As I moved between Nigeria and the United States and absorbed all my reading, research, and experiences, I began to wonder, could Eve have been a Black woman?

Blame for everything and anything.

Sexual harassment: What were you wearing?

Not married, be more "approachable." Don't have too much education or appear sophisticated, or else men will run.

Your husband/partner/boyfriend goes for anything in a skirt. You are not giving enough sex or praying enough. Maybe lose weight and wear more lingerie.

Having issues at work? Pray harder or make more tea for men in your office, or accept feminized ghettos or committees. Don't aim high for strategic committees.

Over here in the diaspora, as a Black woman, never be angry even when you are malign.

Always appear submissive because an assertive Black woman, vision-oriented, is a b…ch.

Until today, people still regurgitate that jaundiced Moynihan report blaming Black women for everything wrong in Black households, belittling the "monstrous intimacy" of slavery, plantation, and libidinal economy that violated Black women, and the burdens they have borne on behalf of families and the nation.

Back to Nigeria, pastors talk about our "fallen" breast.

Every other day a woman is slut-shamed.

That said, Akpabio's kind of comment and approach to women are not new. Remember his response to the journalist who asked him about allegations of corruption leveled against him by Joy Nunieh, a former Acting Managing Director of the Interim Management Committee of the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC). He said, "Ask her four husbands." What is the relationship between corruption and the conjugal history of the accuser?

In her book, Dr. Okonjo Iweala recounted her experience with misogynists within the Federal Executive Council when she served under the Jonathan Administration.

It is more shameful that the people who have been running around delegitimizing Senator Natasha's claim are women who are supposed to know better. Where were these women when the life of a young girl was cut short in that same Akwa-Ibom?

At times, I contemplate which was a lesser poison: the racialized gender and sexuality of Black women or the African manifestation of misogyny and toxicity. However, it strikes me that both stem from the same source. Only the latter is from someone who looks like you.

When I think of all that we endure as women, but more so as Black and African women, I remind myself that though we may be Black, we are blessed women.

I am a marked, Black and blessed woman.

Today, I celebrate Senator Natasha Apkoti-Udangan for taking that walk to lay her allegation before her alleged violator when he should have stepped aside.

No matter the outcome, your walk was for every survivor who can't tell their story and every young girl who will be inspired by your walk before those who should have protected us.